The fog.

This weather is weird. It’s kind of eerie, but I kind of like it, because I’m strange like that.

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I am sorry that I haven’t been updating much. It has been a weird month and then some.

Things to look forward to? I am going to the Cape for an overnight tomorrow. I could use the break. Really feels like I need a day to reset & be around my family and the beach. Friday is ladies night! I am going out with my girl friends to eat, dance and be merry! Saturday will be great too because I FINALLY get to see Alkaline Trio, which I’ve been trying to check off my concert bucket list for years! Good things coming up!

In other news, my last overnight shift is a week from Saturday. I am excited to get my weekends back and look forward to not working 7 days a week.

Short update, I know, but at least it’s something! Fun update(s) to come. I’ll post about my Cape trip & how I pack light for an overnight! I will also post about the concert and hopefully get some great pictures of Boston on Friday while I am out too. Until then, enjoy the rest of your week!

#Goals

Hi everyone! Happy Tuesday!

A quick update: I’ve put my notice in for my overnight shifts. My last one will be August 25th. I took on too much and I am realizing that. I am upset with myself, but also need to be realistic. I can’t work 7 days a week. It’s just not something I can swing anymore. This is for my own sanity.

That being said, and since I am truly doing my best to work on myself and accomplishing my own personal goals, I’ve been thinking a lot about traveling; 2019 and 2020 are going to be full of adventures with friends & solo excursions, that is the goal. As a gift to myself, I am attempting to pay off my credit card and a solid chunk of my remaining car payments as well, before Christmas/New Years this year. Money may be tight up until then, but getting that debt off of my shoulders will absolutely help in the long run and it will give me the opportunity to really save for these vacations.

On the bucket list for 2019:

  • Northern California to visit friends at/near Yosemite
  • Southern California to visit family
  • Jamaica, with friends
  • New Orleans with friends
  • CAMPING ANYWHERE.

On the bucket list for 2020:

  • Ireland with friends, to celebrate our 30th birthdays!
  • Germany and/or Holland to visit friends
  • CAMPING. I love it and I just don’t do it enough

We’ll have to see how this all plays out, but these goals are absolutely do-able and I intend to pursue them while I can. Let the adventure(s) begin!

What’s in my wardrobe?

So, I’ve been slacking on getting this post up, but I put in some work today! I did another de-cluttering purge this morning and wound up with a whole other box full of clothing, bags and shoes to donate.

Let’s get down to it! What’s in my wardrobe? WELL, a lot more than I realized originally, TBH, but that’s beside the point. Let’s start with all of the photos that I took today (almost everything is pictured somewhere below, but I am definitely missing a few things #sorrynotsorry).

Before: To start this whole process, I emptied my closet & all of my drawers entirely and threw everything on my bed.

During: I created 2 piles – “KEEP” & “DONATE” – pretty cut and dry. I folded (or hung up) each piece as I went through everything one by one, to 1. create less work for myself later on & 2. to avoid wrinkles to the best of my ability. Additionally, I jotted down a total tally for each group of items (sweatshirts, pants, jeans, etc.), so I’d know what I had left at the end of the process. I like lists. There, I said it. I like them and I’m not ashamed!

After: Once all of the folding, sorting and decision-making was through, I put everything that I wanted to keep back in its place & packed all of the donations into a box. I felt very zen after that part was over. Organizing makes me feel like I have my sh*t together. Haha!

This is my year-round wardrobe. I haven’t gotten to a point yet where I’ve been able to create seasonal capsules, solely because I live in New England, where the weather can be 90 degrees and humid one day and back down to 40 degrees and rainy the next, (or f*cking snowing.) We New Englandaahs  just never know what’s in store for us next and that is a reality that I’ve come to accept. That being said…

THE LIST: 

Business-Casual Slacks: 1 black, 1 gray
Jeans: 2 dark wash, 1 black, 1 black distressed, 1 light wash distressed
Shorts: 1 black, 1 lighter-wash and 1 Bermuda-style
T-shirts
: 1 gray, 1 black, 1 white, 2 graphic, 2 striped
Long-sleeved Casual: 1 black, 1 gray
Crop-tops: red & white striped
Button-ups: 1 long-sleeved chambray, 1 flannel & 1 white collared button-up
Sweatshirts: 1 cropped, 3 hoodies, 1 zip-up, 1 pull-over
Over-sized Sweaters: 1 colored, 2 neutral
Vests: 1 olive green utility, 1 black w/ brown trim zip-up
Cardigans: 1 black, 1 red, 1 yellow
Camis: 1 black, 1 grey, 1 white, 1 white w/ lacy print
Dressy Tanks: 1 yellow, 1 black, 1 navy/white striped
Suits
: 1 black suit
Skirts: 1 yellow pleated (knee length) & 1 black pencil skirt
LBD(s): 1 dressy (tank) & 1 casual (long-sleeved, knee-length)
Other Dresses: 1 black & white striped, 1 short-sleeved maxi

Bags/Hats/Accessories: 1 reversible belt (1 side black & 1 side brown) + Bags: swimsuit bag, beach bag, “fancy” work bag, casual tote, small leather over-the-shoulder bag, waterproof backpack, runner’s wallet, carry-on suitcase + 5 pairs of earrings & 4 necklaces (not pictured) + Hats: 1 beanie, 1 scally cap, 2 baseball caps

Shoes: 10 pairs – pictured above – 1 casual sandal, 1 dress sandal, toms, colored flats, running shoes, fashion sneakers, black heels, boat shoes, all-weather boots and black heeled booties + one pair of nude flats that I keep under my desk at work (not pictured)

Workout Clothes: Too many t-shirts, not enough pants (LOL – Guess I’ll have to tackle that next)

AND THERE YOU HAVE IT. For a chick living in New England, I’d say less than 50 pieces of clothing (give or take outer layers & workout clothes not listed) for the whole year isn’t too shabby! This means that over the last few months, I have managed to donate OVER HALF of my stuff. Before I started this process, I had 125+ items sitting in miscellaneous draws and closets, many of which I never even wore or thought about. This is HUGE for me! And what a great feeling it is to rid myself of the excess!

As things wear out & I have to replace them, I intend to narrow my collection of clothing and accessories down even more! Investing in quality over quantity is the over-all goal. The end goal is to get myself down to a 35-piece wardrobe, inclusive of shoes & outer-layers, that can been worn interchangeably, year-round. I’ll be giving myself some time to work on that. I am not planning on replacing anything or buying anything else until these items get too worn out to be socially acceptable. Three exceptions to this rule include: 1. if I need to buy any bridesmaid dresses (highly likely); 2. if/when I achieve the weight loss goals that I am gunning for and these items become too big for me; 3. if I end up being selected to move forward with one of the jobs I’ve applied for, I’ll have to buy another suit. Life happens & we all have to adjust accordingly! 🙂

I am SO excited to see where this journey is going to take me. I already feel like so much stress has been lifted! So far, this has helped simplify my morning routine, which has allowed me to actually enjoy commuting into Boston, and boosted my self-confidence, because I have only kept pieces that make me FEEL GOOD. It’s been pretty eye-opening, that’s for sure.

That’s all for now! Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Coming to terms with…

It’s been a really strange month for me. It’s like this break-up has started this weird trickle down of events intended to help me cope. I’m still upset, beyond words, but I can’t help recognize that life is proving to me that things go on, despite my emotional state.

A few new potetnial career opportunities have come up for me and I am looking forward to pursuing them. Might as well, since I don’t have anything but myself to consider at this point in time – which is both an upsetting and eye-opening realization.

I’m trying to get more excited about my own future. The part I’m struggling with is probably obvious at this point, but I need to focus on re-learning that I’m worthy of living a good life. The opportunities that have been placed on the table for me at this point were not put there by accident. They’re a sign to kick my butt into gear and start living for myself.

My heart is hurting, so badly, but time won’t stop for that. That’s not how life works.

Re-focusing on myself

So, it’s been almost 3 weeks of moping around and being sad about this break-up – these feeling aren’t going to go away any time soon, however, I am coming just enough out of this slump to realize that I can’t let my emotions keep me from taking care of myself.

I cancelled my gym membership and finally signed up to join a Zumba studio, which is something I’ve wanted to do since I graduated from college and no longer had dance club during the week! I don’t know what kept me from doing it before, but what better time than now to get back into the hobbies I’ve wanted to pursue in years past?

Additionally, I’ve made more moves toward my career change and am hoping this week’s interview went well! Cross your fingers for me., please!

The one goal I have at this point is to focus on MYSELF. It’s been years since I’ve actually done that and I am beginning to realize how much of myself has been lost in that time frame. It is so strange to seemingly have SO MUCH free time now, to fill up with things that I enjoy. It’s a really refreshing realization.

I should be back next week with my “What’s in my wardrobe?” post, which I’ve been meaning to write. Looks like I may actually have some time to do that over the next week or so, so keep an eye out for that one!

That’s all for now, enjoy your weekend!